Well Done!!!!!

June 10, 2009

Cue the music of DJ Jazzy Jeff and the Fresh Prince.


It has been a minute since I last blogged about anything.  I sure some folks have written me off and that’s ok. 

Well I posted this on my Face book yesterday and it simply says that “Well Done is better than Well Said”…… Why because talk is cheap.  People respect action a lot more than words.  IF our words aren’t backed up by action then they ring hollow and weak.  Why are people afraid of bullies???  Most of the time its because of what they have said and not from what they have done. 

Look at our leaders…. They often promise much but deliver very little in terms of results and that leads to mistrust and uncertainty among those who follow.  Parents who are successful are the ones who are able to communicate with their children but there comes a time when it must be followed with action.  IF we don’t then we run the risk of raising undisciplined kids who don’t respect us.  The bible is specific in this instance when it talks about faith without works is dead.  Our faith (words) must be put to work (action) to be truly effective. 

Bottom line: if you say you are going to do something DO IT!!!!


Remember the first words you want to hear from the Lord are ” Well Done, good and Faithful servant”


Man Rules

March 20, 2009

Found this on the web and thought it was funny and very true:  Check It out

These are our rules!
Please note… they are all numbered ‘1’ ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one! Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That’s what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you think you’re fat, you probably are. Don’t ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.

1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have NO idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say ‘nothing,’ We will act like nothing’s wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don’t want an answer to, Expect an
answer you don’t want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is
fine… Really!

1. Don’t ask us what we’re thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as baseball, sex, hooters, or golf.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape! Straight IS a shape! Flat IS
a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this. Yes, I know I have to sleep on the couch tonight; But did you know men really don’t mind that? It’s like camping.


Its only Money…. Right?!?!

March 10, 2009

I found this site linked to one of my favorite message boards and I thought it was kinda interesting.  It puts into perspective just how much money a trillion dollars actually is……. ENJOY!


Teachable moment

February 28, 2009

As I write this post Caleb and I have just returned home from watching Madea goes to Jail.  Let me say that it is not a movie that would be appropriate for children under 13 because of some the subject matter.  It provided a very teachable moment for Caleb and me to have a good conversation. 

One of the main characters was a street preacher whose ministry was to prostitutes and junkies on the street.  Needless to say she was a tough women and very unorthodox in her approach to preaching the gospel.  Part of her ministry was to give out condoms and clean needles to those people on the street.  Yes it seems crazy and out of line for what a christian should be doing.  But all she was doing was meeting the people where they were and building a trust with them that no bible thumper could ever possibly hope to build.  She was a radical christian not because she was giving people the tools to hopefully keep them a little safer while they indulged in a destructive lifestyle, but because she had been freed herself and she was not willing to let them suffer the same fate.  She knew that her words would not bring the change needed in them but it would be her actions demonstrated in love that would bring the desired result.  The question is are we that radical?  Am I that radical?  I asked Caleb that very question, and talked about how important it was to be real, something that a lost world can look to without judgement and say that is something I want.  This street preacher decided to love those prostitutes without condition or condemnation.  She demonstrated what the power of God’s love can do when given with no strings attached.  Real and radical…..  I have some work to do!


Sometimes Technology is good!

February 23, 2009

I know it is not a new site on the net but Facebook has become one of my daily stops while surfing.  I have found people there that I haven’t seen since high school and college.  Former teammates, roommates, best friends and girlfriends, they are all there.  People who have come through my life at one point or another to leave a mark on my life.  I can say for the most part reflecting on those relationships is mostly positive.  My kids asked me once if I had a lot of people that didn’t like me when I was in school.  I told them that I didn’t recall having  a lot of enemies because I tried to get along with most people I came in contact with, but nothing is 100%.  The point is,  that people don’t become a part of your life by accident or some random act.  I believe the people that I have had to opportunity know and form friendships with played a great role in who I am today.  I was glad to have them call me friend, and I hope that I made an impression upon their lives as they have made on me.  I was thinking today during lunch that we see people every day that in that moment it will be the ONLY time we ever cross their paths. 

Random…. Maybe but sometimes I think about things like this and it makes me appreciate those people who are and were a part of my life.


Have I done enough?!?!?

February 10, 2009

That is the question that plagues me this week.  Once again it comes back to my kids, have I done enough.  My relationship with my son is what I would consider a good one.  He likes to be around me and I like to be around him, but have I done enough.  Do I speak into his life concerning spiritual matters, do I set for him a good example to follow.  Have I done enough.  My son and daughters are the one thing in life next to my marriage that I can not screw up.  Have I done enough.  There are days that I fear, I am falling WAY short of doing enough to be the father I am supposed to be to them.  My son was faced with some comments that were racial in nature from another child in school.  To his credit he did not respond in kind but it left him a bit angry about the situation.  I told him that he could just tell them that Jesus loved them but that it wouldn’t really have the desire effect he was looking for.  I also told him that they were just words and that they hold no power over him.  He also needed to remember that 10 years from now the words of some classmate will have no  bearing on his life.  I am thankful that my son is willing to come to us when he has problems.  I guess the day I die I will finally stop asking– Have I done enough?  Till then I will use it as motivation to be a better parent .


Good Intentions!!!

January 23, 2009

I have heard it said that the road to hell in paved with good intentions.   Not sure exactly what that means, but it some small fashion I think that it may refer to our desire to do the right thing.  But due to the circumstances  or  forces within or outside our control, it seems to derail those thoughts.  With that being said, we had a plan, a budget, an idea of how to better organize our finances and to be a better steward of what God has given us.  We have made some drastic changes to accommodate those ends.  Everything was in place to be ready to hit the ground running, right….. WRONG!  Which leads me to sometimes think that no matter how hard I try, things won’t be any different or better for me and my family.  There always seems to be a fly in the ointment or some hiccup to throw things off track.  My friend Todd said it seemed like Murphy’s Law and me were becoming best friends.  I guess I am wondering how many more hoops will I have to jump threw, or how many more times will I have to chase my own tail before I can say it is finished.  I guess there must still be some lesson that I am not fully understanding or willing to embrace that brings me back to what appears to be the same place.  It could be worst,  I could allow myself to get in a funk and bite every body’s head off.  Or I could except this as my lot in life to always get to the Jordan but never cross over.  Or I could continue to fight on and hold on till my break through comes.  So there it is.  Me in real time, not mad, not sad, not glad, still just looking for the light at the end of the tunnel.  Closer now than I was yesterday….. I think?!?!